Dan Savage: Cheating 'Can Save A Marriage' (VIDEO)

Dan Savage: Cheating Can 'Save A Marriage'

On the agenda? Savage's view on infidelity, which has lately made headlines.

Recounting a story from his book about a man who took a lover on the side when his wife's libido disappeared, Savage told host Josh Zepps that there are times when cheating "is the right thing to do."

"Sometimes it can save a marriage," he said.

Ultimately, the wife's libido came back, the man parted ways with his lover and their marriage endured. In that situation, Savage says the infidelity was the "lesser of two evils."

"Divorcing his wife, economically disadvantaging his wife, traumatizing his children, versus having this discreet affair on the side -- I look at that and I say the affair was the right thing to do," he said. "Divorce would have been the wrong thing to do. Two wrong things maybe -- two evils -- but divorce was the greater evil."

To those who argue with his logic, claiming that good relationships are built on honesty, Savage says that "relationships aren't depositions."

"We lie to our partners all the time," he said. "There are some truths you don't tell to spare your partner's feelings and to allow them to continue to love you the way they want to love you."

Watch the video clip above for more on Savage's take on infidelity and relationships (and check out the full segment here), then click through the slideshow below for 15 of Hollywood's most surprising alleged affairs.

Celebrity Cheating Scandals
Rob Kardashian & Rita Ora(01 of15)
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"She cheated on me with nearly 20 dudes while we were together, I wonder how many she will sleep with now that we apart? But I mean 20?!!!," Rob Kardashian tweeted, according to The Insider. "How can a woman who is so busy trying to start her own career have time to be with so many dudes all while in a relationship?!" (credit:Rob Kardashian/Twitter)
Heidi Klum & Seal(02 of15)
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After Heidi Klum filed for divorce in April, Seal accused her of cheating with bodyguard Martin Kirsten. (credit:Getty)
Kristen Stewart & Robert Pattinson(03 of15)
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As revealed in exclusive photos obtained by Us Weekly, Kristen Stewart was caught cheating on boyfriend Robert Pattinson with her married "Snow White and the Huntsman" director Rupert Sanders. (credit:Getty)
Josh Duhamel & Fergie(04 of15)
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In late 2009 Nicole Forrester, an erotic dancer, came forward and said she'd engaged in a one-night stand with Josh Duhamel. (credit:Getty)
Maria Shriver & Arnold Schwarzenegger(05 of15)
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Arnold Schwarzenegger has revealed that he cheated on his wife Maria Shriver with actress Brigitte Nielsen. He also fathered a child with a member of his household staff. (credit:Getty)
Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher(06 of15)
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Sara Leal, 22, a part-time model, told Britain's Sun newspaper that she slept with Kutcher twice in the early morning hours of Sept. 24, following an all-night party in a room at the Hard Rock Hotel in San Diego. (credit:Getty)
Sandra Bullock & Jesse James(07 of15)
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While Sandra Bullock was in Atlanta shooting "The Blind Side," Jesse James had an 11-month affair with Michelle "Bombshell" McGee. (credit:Getty)
Keith Urban & Nicole Kidman(08 of15)
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Amanda Wyatt, a 23-year-old part-time model, revealed that Keith Urban was unfaithful to his superstar wife throughout their courtship and engagement, according to the Daily Mail. (credit:AP)
Eva Longoria & Tony Parker(09 of15)
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Eva Longoria and ex-husband Tony Parker had a falling out amid reports that he had cheated with a former San Antonio Spurs teammate's wife. Longoria had allegedly found hundreds of text messages on Parker's phone from another woman. (credit:Getty)
Jason Aldean & Brittany Kerr(10 of15)
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"The truth is that I screwed up. I had too much to drink, let the party get out of hand and acted inappropriately at a bar," Jason Aldean posted on his Facebook account. (credit:AP/Getty)
David Boreanaz & Jamie Bergman(11 of15)
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David Boreanaz admitted to being unfaithful to wife Jamie Bergman in 2010. The "Bones" star came forward to People magazine after a former mistress threatened to go to the media. (credit:Getty)
Blake Shelton & Kaynette Williams(12 of15)
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"My parents are private investigators for God's sake," Miranda Lambert said of her relationship's beginnings. "I've seen this my whole life--affairs. Of all people to know better, I know better than this." (credit:Getty)
Jude Law & Sienna Miller(13 of15)
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Jude Law And Sienna Miller's 2006 split occurred a little over a year after graphic allegations that Law had been having an affair with his children's former nanny, Daisy Wright. She spoke about her relationship with Law to the British press. (credit:Getty)
Shania Twain & Robert John 'Mutt' Lange(14 of15)
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Shania Twain and producer/husband Mutt Lange divorced amid allegations of Mutt cheating on her with the manager of their Swiss chalet, Mary Ann Thiebaud, who also happened to be Shania's best friend. (credit:AP)
Garth Brooks & Sandy Mahl(15 of15)
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During an interview with Barbara Walters, Garth Brooks admitted to the fact that he had cheated on wife Sandy Mahl. His fans soon discovered the "other woman" was fellow country music star Trisha Yearwood. (credit:Getty)

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