Splitting The Cost Of The Engagement Ring? Readers Weigh In On New Trend

The Engagement Ring Trend That No One Can Agree On
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Many modern brides have no problem bucking tradition -- whether it means skipping the white dress, keeping their last name after marriage, or having someone other than their dad (or no one at all!) walk them down the aisle.

And lately, we've been hearing about a lot of women who are deciding to "go Dutch" and split the cost of an engagement ring with their spouse-to-be.

“Today, because both the man and woman earn money and contribute to the financials and the decision-making, it’s not surprising that both of them are involved in all aspects [of choosing and paying for the ring],” matchmaker Samantha Daniels told TODAY.com. “I think it makes for a better connection between the two people.”

On Tuesday, we sparked a lot of debate among our followers when we asked them how they would feel about splitting the cost of the ring. Find out what men and women on both sides had to say below.

"No problem! I'll snake the drain, kill the spiders and pee standing up, too." - @coffeeinmyleft

"I did that four years ago. His transmission went out and he didn't have the money to pay for both so I helped. It's our money in the end anyway." - @talithajm41

"I'm sure that would go over great..." - @annakilgore

"In this day and age, I think it is only fair...start off on equal footing." - @ShannonRoss44

"No, just no." - @KittyWittyInk

"Is he splitting the dress cost? Am I paying for half of his suit? Half of the pain while giving birth? Deal." - @Successss

"Bulls**t." - @VocalImagery

"We might as well just save the money and buy the wedding bands. That's ridiculous." - @ChristinaB0Bina

"Doesn’t this happen anyway when you marry and share lives, bank accounts and debts? I would have no problem with this." - @stellawonkey

"If my taste exceeded his budget and I had the cash to spare, maybe? Not as romantic as him deciding alone though..." - @lizettesnyc

"I don't think most women would feel it." - @CaitlinRondino

"It's a very stupid idea. It's a man's duty to present his fiance with an engagement ring." - @iffyji

"I would be fine with that, but my wife might get upset." - @enilkevets

"I didn't split the cost, but my fiancé was smart and gave me his grandmother's ring, so his cost for customization wasn't too awful." - @RachelBraman

Let us know how you feel about this trend in the comments below.

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Before You Go

Best Offbeat Celebrity Engagement Rings
Halle Berry(01 of09)
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Olivier Martinez proposed to Halle Berry in 2012 with this unique emerald ring. (credit:Gregg DeGuire/WireImage)
Keira Knightley(02 of09)
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Keira Knightley's two-carat engagement ring, from now-husband James Righton is surprisingly modest. Knightley and Righton became engaged in 2012 and married in May. Post-wedding, Knightley added a yellow gold band to her ring finger for a trendy mixed-metal look. (credit:Splash News)
Jessica Simpson(03 of09)
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Jessica Simpson's unusual engagement ring, from boyfriend Eric Johnson, features a ruby surrounded by diamonds. Simpson and Johnson have been engaged since 2010. (credit:Getty)
Anna Paquin(04 of09)
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Anna Paquin's ring, from now-husband Stephen Moyer, features an unusual rustic diamond. Paquin and Moyer married in 2010. (credit:Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
Dania Ramirez(05 of09)
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"Heroes" actress Dania Ramirez said her fiance, director John "Bev" Land, designed her distinctive engagement ring. They married in February. (credit:Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Marion Cotillard(06 of09)
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Rumors that Marion Cotillard was engaged to her boyfriend, French actor Guillaume Canet, swirled when she stepped out wearing this unique sparkler in 2010. They have yet to tie the knot. (credit:Getty)
Louise Roe(07 of09)
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TV host Louise Roe tweeted about her engagement in December 2012, sharing this photo with the caption, "Guys I have some exciting news to share, I am engaged! I was given my great-grandmother's aquamarine ring, i LOVE!" Her fiance is Abercrombie & Fitch model Josh Slack. (credit:Louise Roe Twitter)
Kate Middleton(08 of09)
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Prince William gave Kate Middleton the ring his mother, Princess Diana, chose when she became engaged to Prince Charles in 1981. William and Kate married in 2011, and we all have Kate to thank for making colored engagement rings so trendy! (credit:AP Photo/Arthur Edwards)
Olivia Wilde(09 of09)
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Even Tom Hanks was stunned by Olivia Wilde's bling. The ring, given to Wilde in January by Jason Sudeikis, features a halo of emeralds. (credit:James Devaney/WireImage)

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