13 Reasons To Have Sex With Your Spouse Every Night

13 Reasons To Have Sex With Your Spouse Every Night
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When life gets busy, one of the first things to go in a relationship is sex. Couples are too tired, too full, too stressed, too distracted. Simply put: not in the mood.

We get it -- there are a million and one legitimate reasons not to have sex tonight, tomorrow or the day after that. But there are plenty of couples out there who are doing the deed five, six, seven or more times a week. We recently asked married HuffPost readers who have sex every night (barring things like sickness, business trips or other extenuating circumstances, of course) how it has improved their lives and relationships. Below are 13 good reasons to get it on with your spouse on a near daily basis.

1. It provides some much-needed couple time.
"My husband and I have sex every night because it's a moment in the day that is just about the two of us. We are parents to a toddler, so when we lay him down for bed each night, we can then spend the rest of the night expressing how we feel about each other physically. Having sex allows us to be passionate, to show affection and we enjoy pleasing each other." - Christie M. of Arkansas; married 3 years

2. It leads to more PDA outside of the bedroom.
"We're very physically expressive with one another, even when we're not having sex. We hold hands a lot, he slaps my butt when I'm working in the kitchen, I nuzzle his neck when he's working on research papers at the desk." - Jesse N. of Ontario, Canada; married less than one year

3. It can be a workout if you do it right.
"When you have four kids and no time, sex is the best exercise." - Tera M. of Oklahoma, married less than one year

4. It gets you out of your head for a little while.
"Sex for me, and now for my husband since we’ve gotten together, is a complete escape from reality. We are both very much into role-playing and it’s such a wonderful feeling to not have to be me for a while, to completely shut off from our crappy day-to-day existence and strictly be about ourselves and our enjoyment." - Sara C., of Panama City, Florida; married one year

5. It builds trust.
"New positions and sexual frontiers take a lot of trust in your partner to not screw it up, and that kind of trust is best earned after several years of personal and joint bodily exploration." - Kristena M. of Richmond, Virginia; married 10 years

6. It's a way to connect without speaking.
"Sex is a vital part of marriage. It brings couples together in a way that other things don't. What I mean is that it promotes togetherness, snuggling and cuddling, and it's a way to connect without words." - Teresa F. of Nashville, Michigan; married 37 years

7. You might end up arguing less.
"We know when something is off with each other. And most importantly, we don't fight, argue or bicker! We sit down and talk things out. Staying connected like that helps us communicate better outside of the bedroom." - Libby S. of Indianapolis, Indiana; married 2 years

8. It forces you to get creative.
"Being intimate so often, and sharing what each person needs and wants allows the freedom of creativity. There is no position or situation either of us has ever denied the other. This makes us each feel more and more comfortable to share [fantasies] or point out a hot girl or guy, and say what we’d like to do with them in bed." - Arlene B. of Monterey, California; engaged for 3 years

9. It's easier to schedule than a formal date night.
"I think it's the easiest way to have some romance since we really don't do date nights or vacations alone. Plus, I know my husband enjoys it." - Emily D. of Pleasanton, California; married 12 years

10. One word: Orgasms.
"The benefit for me is that it feels simply amazing. I also love to see how my husband gets lost in the moment. Being able to see that level of complete satisfaction on his face is so satisfying to me." - Stacia L. of Texas; married 11 years

11. It improves self-esteem.
"It has brought a new level of happiness for me personally, and has helped my self-esteem knowing that after two kids, my husband still thinks I'm sexy." - Karri H. of Alaska, married 6 years

12. It's a guaranteed mood booster.
"He sings in the shower after morning sex, nearly every time. This is all the proof I need that sex is a mood enhancer for him. And I'd like to think that good mood carries over into other parts of his day. I love knowing that I'm the reason he's smiling at work." - Jesse N. of Ontario, Canada; married less than one year

13. If you use it, you won't lose it.
"If sex is such a large part of your routine and a big priority, it never becomes low priority or gets weird or awkward. And you won't have to worry about how to resume or reconnect. Just don't ever stop doing it!" - Lara G. of Austin, Texas; married 24 years

Some responses have been edited and condensed.

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Before You Go

Stars Who Overshare About Their Sex Lives
Nick Cannon(01 of20)
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Cannon once admitted that he made love to estranged wife Mariah Carey while listening to her music, adding that he'd masturbate to her tunes "when she's not there." "Sometimes there's special nights when you turn the music on and sometimes it's morning, you roll over and get it poppin'!" (credit:Getty)
Heidi Klum(02 of20)
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"Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while," she confessed to Marie Claire, adding, "It’s good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm." (credit:Getty)
Kyra Sedgwick(03 of20)
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The actress told Good Housekeeping she and Kevin Bacon have spiced up their love life now that children Travis, 23, and Sosie, 20, have headed off to college: "There's a lot more walking around the house naked," Sedgwick confesses. (credit:Getty)
Gwyneth Paltrow(04 of20)
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Speaking about Tracy Anderson's fitness method, Paltrow told Redbook magazine: "It did such wonders for my life, my confidence, my sex life, everything." (credit:Getty)
Olivia Wilde(05 of20)
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Wilde gave the crowd a mouthful when she shared personal details about her love life at the These Girls event at Joe’s Pub in October. She confessed that she and Jason Sudeikis “have sex like Kenyan marathon runners.” (credit:Getty)
Cameron Diaz(06 of20)
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"The fountain of youth [for me], let's see...I guess it's exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex," Diaz told Vogue in 2010, adding, "yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It's healthy, it's natural, it's what we are here to do!" (credit:Getty)
Jada Pinkett-Smith(07 of20)
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Jada and Will have been married for 11 years and have two young children, but they know how to keep the spark alive. Jada told Redbook in 2011: "Be sneaky... your girlfriend's house at a party. The bathroom. A bedroom. Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Pull over on the side of the road... Just switch it up." (credit:Getty)
John Mayer(08 of20)
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Remember when Mayer couldn't keep his mouth shut about his sex life with ex-girlfriend, Jessica Simpson? "Sexually it was crazy. That's all I'll say," he told Playboy in 2010, "It was like napalm, sexual napalm. Did you ever say, 'I want to quit my life and just f**king snort you? If you charged me $10,000 to f**k you, I would start selling all my s**t just to keep f**king you?'" (credit:Getty)
Lamar Odom(09 of20)
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“You can tell I’m into the bald,” Odom told George Lopez in 2010 while sitting with wife Khloe Kardashian. “You got to keep it clean down there. It’s disgusting if you let it go crazy.” (credit:Getty)
Michael Douglas(10 of20)
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"God bless her, [Catherine Zeta-Jones] likes older guys," Douglas told AARP. "And some wonderful enhancements have happened in the last few years -- Viagra, Cialis -- that can make us all feel younger." (credit:Getty)
Robert Downey Jr.(11 of20)
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TMI! "I was a compulsive, serial masturbator," the actor confessed, adding, "I utilized that organ and rode it for everything it was worth." (credit:Getty)
Angelina Jolie(12 of20)
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“I am very lucky with Brad,” she told the Telegraph. “He is a real gentleman, but he is also a real man’s man. He’s got the wonderful balance of being an extraordinary, great, loving father, a very, very intelligent man and physically he’s a real man, in all things that it means.’”She also discussed having sex during pregnancy, telling EW, "It’s great for the sex life. It just makes you a lot more creative, so you have fun.” (credit:Getty)
Ashlee Simpson(13 of20)
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After reuniting with then husband Pete Wentz at the 2009 Australia MTV Awards, Simpson got a little ahead of herself, announcing: "Sorry we haven’t seen each other in a while, so we’re going to find a quiet place to go fornicate." (Via the Courier Mail) (credit:Getty)
Jessica Simpson(14 of20)
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"I’m kind of unstoppable right now," Simpson told Ryan Seacrest about her sex life during pregnancy. "The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever.” (credit:Getty)
Ricki Lake(15 of20)
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"When I get home [from rehearsals], I train horizontally," Lake told People while she was competing on "Dancing with the Stars.""[Partner Christian] has noticed a difference in my stamina over the last couple of weeks." (credit:Getty)
Sting(16 of20)
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Sting loves to romance his wife Trudie Syler. "There's a playfulness we have; I like the theater of sex," he told Harper's Bazaar. "I like to look good. I like her to dress up. I like to dress her up." (credit:Getty)
Zoe Saldana(17 of20)
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"I like missionary and I like being on my knees too," Saldana told Marie Claire. "And I love being on top ... I love doggy-style or standing up." (credit:Getty)
Jane Fonda(18 of20)
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"At 74, I have never had such a fulfilling sex life," Fonda told Hello! magazine. "The only thing I have never known is true intimacy with a man. I absolutely wanted to discover that before dying. It has happened with Richard, I feel totally secure with him. Often, when we make love, I see him as he was 30 years ago." (credit:Getty)
Kelsey Grammer(19 of20)
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“We didn’t do anything much more than kiss for several months,” Kelsey told Conan O’Brien about seeing Kayte Walsh while he was still married to Camille Grammer. “I just wanted to clear that up. She was worth the wait.”“I would think that would be difficult,” Conan said, laughing. Kelsey replied, “Well, for a guy that hadn’t had sex for a decade it wasn’t that hard!” (credit:Getty)
George Clooney(20 of20)
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Although Clooney lost his virginity at the age of 16 ("young, very young, too young"), he told Rolling Stone he had his first orgasm when he was much younger. "I believe it was while climbing a rope when I was six or seven years old," he explained. "I mean, nothing came out, but all the other elements were there. I remember getting to the top of the rope, hanging off the rope, and going, "Oh, my God, this feels great!" (credit:Getty)

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