Lost in Translation: Thailand Offers Course For Women Who Marry Foreigners

The classes are designed to reduce the risks of Thai women being scammed or being a victim of human trafficking.
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BANGKOK (Reuters) - Thailand is offering a free course to help Thai women cope with the highs and lows of interracial marriage and avoid potential scams or falling victim to human trafficking when moving abroad.

As Thai society becomes more accepting of interracial marriages, some women view them as a way to better their economic status, the social development ministry says.

“Our course will teach women how to conduct themselves, about the laws of their destination country, and how to prepare before going,” said senior ministry official Patcharee Arayakul.

“This is to reduce the risks of women being scammed or being a victim of human trafficking,” added Patcharee, who is the director of the ministry’s division of gender equality. 

Although there is no recent data on such marriages, a 2004 government study showed more than 15,000 women from one of the poorest regions, northeastern Isan, had married foreign men, and sent a monthly total of 122 million baht to their families.

The course covers “legal rights, how to seek help through relevant Thai authorities, as well as exploring issues of culture shock,” said Dusadee Ayuwat, an associate professor at Khon Kaen University who helped to design it.

The practical advice was very useful, said one woman who attended the day-long course, paid for by the ministry.

“I was more interested in the legal aspects rather than the culture shock,” said the woman, who declined to be named.

The course could be useful for some Thai women, said Ploynisa Duangdararungrueng, a former spa manager who is married to German national Ralf Wacker.

“Thai women, especially those from the northeast region, are soft-spoken and submissive,” she said. “They must learn to respect themselves and their culture.”

Her husband said the course could prepare women for the reality of life in the West.

“For a lot of women, life in the West is like a fairy tale, but in reality it can feel extremely isolating moving to a small town,” said Wacker who urged Thailand to offer a similar course for Western spouses.

“If the Western man does not understand the family dynamics, this can cause a lot of problems.”

 

Before You Go

30 Interracial Couples Show Why Their Love Matters
Keosha and Jonathan(01 of29)
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"Our interracial relationship matters because love isn't simple but family is. We are getting married in August of this year, and it each day I see the strength in our love and our family. I have no need to prove our love to people who assume we are not together because the idea of a black woman and a white man being in love is beyond their reality, and quite frankly, confuses them. I cannot stop people who see me holding his son's (now my son's) hand in the street from assuming that I am the nanny. Not seeing our love makes things complicated and fuels an ignorance that has plagued our society for generations. I realized that I cannot fix those thoughts in people. I can just love my family. Yes, I am Black and he is White but more importantly, he is the man that loves me. And just as important, I love him." - Keosha Bond and Jonathan Shank (credit:Courtesy of Keosha Bond)
Samantha and Levi(02 of29)
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"Every time I walk down the street holding hands with my boyfriend, I think back to how less than 50 years ago, we wouldn't have been able to be together. I also realize that as a mixed-race woman, I myself might not even had been born had the law not passed and discrimination towards dating outside your race had stopped my birthparents from having me. I love my boyfriend so incredibly much and we met because we both have such a big love for comedy and theater. And although we started as friends, our relationship bloomed into the beautiful partnership we have now where we can constantly make each other laugh and support the other's career in the comedy world. Thankfully we recently moved to New York where there are gorgeous interracial couples everywhere, so I never have to feel the stares of disapproval, because it's a city of such great diversity. I can't even imagine what it must've been like in the past for people of different races who fell in love and couldn't be open about their feelings for fear of attacks and separation, so I am so thankful for those who pioneered the way for my relationship to be able to be." - Samantha O'Brochta (credit:Courtesy of Samantha O'Brochta)
Nora and Todd(03 of29)
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"Our interracial relationship matters because we prove to the world everyday that love has and should have no boundaries. We have been together for 25 years and have 3 amazing children. We have experienced our share of racism and bigotry from all sides but we remain and will remain steadfast in our conviction that love sees no color, and despite hardships our love is stronger and our bond is unbreakable." - Nora Johnson (credit:Courtesy of Nora Johnson)
David and Karl(04 of29)
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"My relationship with my partner, Karl, matters most of all because we support each other, bring joy to each other, and help challenge each other to become our best selves.
But in doing that, we daily commit "personal as political" acts that we believe have an impact, however subtle, on how others perceive both race and sexual orientation. As an interracial couple, we demonstrate that individuals of different races have more in common than not. This is particularly important in the gay community where race continues to be a polarizing factor in the pursuit of sexual and romantic interactions. In the hetero-normative world, our presence has a double impact, helping to break down pre-conceived notions regarding racial divisions as well as challenging others regarding how they view same-sex relationships.

A recent event serves as an illustration: we attended Karl's 25th college reunion at Colgate University in early June. By publicly identifying and acting as a loving couple in a mostly white and heterosexual environment, our presence required his classmates, other attendees, and their families to acknowledge our legitimacy as a gay couple and as an interracial couple. As we also attended several events for Alumni of Color, we served a similar purpose in those social situations." - David Pasteelnick
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Jasmine and Roope(05 of29)
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"My wonderful partner, Roope, was living 4000 miles away in Finland when we met during his first visit to New York City in 2014. We fell in love deeply and quickly soon after that. Our interracial relationship matters because we can live, laugh, and love out in the open and free of ridicule, which is a privilege that I know many still do not have even in 2016. We have both learned a lot about each other's cultures and how different life is when you're both a different race and nationality in America. Our relationship has opened both our minds to each other's worlds and, I think, we've become better people because of it." - Jasmine Bayron (credit:Courtesy of Jasmine Bayron)
Franklyn and Niki(06 of29)
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"My relationship with my girlfriend Niki matters to me because I can freely love someone who makes me a better person and keeps me happy. She understands that being with me will be a challenge, especially in a world where some people think interracial couples are to be looked down upon. One of the most important things about my relationship is that loves me being unapologetically Black.

The amount of love I feel isn't quantifiable. I've been with Niki for less than a year, and we're already having our first child, but I feel so connected to her in multiple ways. Knowing that less than fifty years ago, she and I could have never been together is a daunting thought. When loving someone becomes a crime, upheld by white supremacy, I think of how fortunate I am to have someone like her." - Franklyn Brown
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Namuddu and Uriah(07 of29)
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"We are both from completely different worlds. We are both young and full of life. The past did not matter once our hearts met. It was like we had known each other for years and we were catching up. I had never been in love before. I have never felt what I feel for him for anyone else. We do not choose who our hearts want, I think. I know my heart chose him. I can not imagine what my heart who be like if I was told we could never be together." - Namuddu Valentine (credit:Courtesy of Namuddu Valentine)
Stephanie and David(08 of29)
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"Interracial relationships and marriages have always been considered a normal and accepted thing in my life, but it wasn't until I met my boyfriend that I understood the value of being in one. It takes a lot of strength to maintain the relationship and to fight negativity from strangers. After living in the South for a few years, I got used to getting dirty looks and comments about me being "colored." Now that I'm in New Jersey, my boyfriend and I laugh when an elderly person at the store asks us if we want our purchases bagged together. My boyfriend makes sure that I'm never put in an uncomfortable situation regarding my race. I truly admire him and love him for standing up for me when past boyfriends never did.

I believe that heritage and tradition are really important to understand a person, so he taught me about his People, the Italians and the Jews. When we first started dating, I was in the early stages of preparing to convert to Judaism, so it was nice to learn about Jewish customs and participate in celebrations with his family. I consider myself "rich" in heritage and felt honored to share my family lineage and stories with him. My family's background is 1/2 Haitian, 1/4 French and 1/4 Spanish. Before he met me, he knew little to nothing about Haitians. Sure, I might have taught him some bad words in Creole and not to mess with an angry Haitian-American woman, but I've taught him about Haitian values and culture. Those facets make me who I am and motivate me to be a good human. Every day that we learn about each other and the world, I feel my heart grow." - Stephanie Berryer Jean-Louis
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TaRaea and Bryan(09 of29)
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"My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and together for almost 9 years. Both of our parents are in interracial marriages that have lasted 30+ years. Our parents embodied the freedom to love someone based on who they are, regardless of their skin color. We are immensely thankful for Mr. & Mrs. Loving for fighting for the basic human right of marring whomever you want." - TaRaea Todtenhoefer (credit:Courtesy of Taraea Todtenhoefer)
Alexi and Enrique(10 of29)
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"My husband and I were married yesterday. I am Jamaican and he is Salvadorean. Our interracial relationship matters because we need each other and have held each other up over the last 5 years in fundamental ways. We are both first generation college students. I just graduated from Columbia with a B.A. and I'm headed to Columbia Law in the fall. He just finished his junior year, and is pursuing an M.S. in Occupational Therapy after he graduates with a B.S. in Psychology. We are both of the opinion that struggling together is what has allowed us to thrive and find our paths, learning and growing together, even when we didn't know what we didn't know about the college application, financial aid, and grad school application processes. We plan to continue learning from each other and growing together for the rest of our lives." - Alexi Thomas (credit:Courtesy of Alexi Thomas)
Michelle and Samuel(11 of29)
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"Hello, my name is Michelle Huggins and that adorable black man by my side is Samuel Miller. Sam is from LA, & was transplanted to Logan, Utah as a child. I was born & raised in SLC. We met in Park City, Utah. We have been together, madly in love, for 3.5 years, but we've been friends for almost 6. This picture was taken two weeks after we moved to Denver, Colorado. We were living in Jackson Hole, Wyoming for the past three years, but had the misfortune of our house burning down while we were at the Rihanna concert in SLC. So, we packed up our remaining belongings, started a GoFundMe, and with the help of our amazing friends, we made the move from small town to big city. We already feel like we belong here. We were the only black and white couple in JH, and Sam was a sort of novelty there, because it was so white centric. People would ask him where he got his afro! But here, in the city, we're surrounded by interracial couples. Whether they are black and white or any other unique combination of beautiful humans! It's a wonderful feeling to be walking down the street & see so many happy, gorgeous interracial couples." - Michelle Huggins (credit:Courtesy of Michelle Huggins)
Sharon and Vincent(12 of29)
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"Love transcends racial and cultural differences. Although we come from very different backgrounds, the two of us share important values. The silk screen in the background of our wedding picture says it all, 'One Race-Human-One Love.'" - Sharon Dole (credit:Courtesy of Sharon Dole)
Chima and Laura(13 of29)
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"Since youth, I was told that I was only allowed to marry a girl of my own race. I was warned that straying away from my dark brown skin was unethical, and unacceptable. I was informed that a relationship outside of my melanin could never work. Until I met my Laura. She was the first person to ever disprove the warnings I had been given, and helped me realize that I can truly spend my life with someone despite our differences in pigmentation. My relationship matters, because in Laura, I found a best friend, a lover, and a soon to be wife. None of this would have been possible without Loving v. Virginia." - Chima Odinkemere (credit:Courtesy of Chima Odinkemere)
Susanna and Nikia(14 of29)
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"My interracial relationship matters because I want our future children to look at us and experience freedom, on so many levels. When kids can see the future of the world in front of them, a reality that has overcome (but continues to fight) racism, homophobia and sexism, then we start to see real change in our lifetime. I want them to live in and celebrate that freedom." - Susanna Speed (credit:Courtesy of Susanna Speed)
Darrell and Keia(15 of29)
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"My interracial relationship matters because it shows what love really is. Two people being brought together to share their life. Skin tone should not be deal breaker for anyone. Loving a person's heart, mind, and spirit is what's important. Looks will fade but knowing you are with someone that is your partner in life (and sometimes crime lol) is what matters when my boobs drop and his six pack fades, we will be sitting on the porch talking crazy to another. #loveislove" - Keia Foster (credit:Courtesy of Keia Foster)
Suzi and Cole(16 of29)
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"I'm Black, White, and Asian and I come from a very mixed family. We look like the cooking options on a toaster, a wide range of skin tones. I grew up knowing that it was okay to love anyone of any color, and any gender as well. Our relationship matters because it's still seen as radical and we still get stares (and dirty looks) even though it's 2016! I want today's young people to see us and know it's okay to love anyone." - Suzi Elzie (credit:Courtesy of Suzi Elzie)
Tre and Jamie(17 of29)
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"We are not a couple because of, or in spite of, our race or ethnicity. We are with each other because of the individuals we are and the love we share. Race and culture play a big part in our identity and life, but what makes us appreciate one another is how we as individuals integrate our experiences, think about things, and react to situations. We both believe that our relationship is more interesting than any previous, and part of the reason is our differing races. We have learned a lot about diversity from one another. While we have learned more about the cultures each one of us is from, we have also found that our relationship has made us more understanding of how individuals from all different cultures vary in amazing ways. Noticing differences in race and ethnicity does not make us think that people should be separated by their skin tone, but rather, it makes us realize that we should all come together because we have so much to learn from one another. (And we have so much different, delicious food to share among cultures!) We choose to share what we have learned from our interracial relationship with family, friends, and classmates in the hopes of spreading, understanding and promoting acceptance of diversity. The two of us have been open and honest about race and its impacts on our relationship and society as a whole from the beginning and we will continue to do so, even if the conversations get tough. All in all, we know that we are in an awesome relationship and we wouldn’t trade it for anything." - Jamie Bergmiller (credit:Courtesy of Jamie Bergmiller)
Suzie and Donald(18 of29)
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"I do not love my man because of the amount of melanin in his skin versus mine. I love him because he's an incredible human being & he adds more to my life than words can express. If you don't want an interracial relationship for yourself, that's your choice, but you don't have ANY right to make MY CHOICES. #LOVEisLOVE #LOVINGDAY" - Suzie Stone (credit:Courtesy of Suzie Stone)
Michael and Katie(19 of29)
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"My name is Michael Jay and the lovely lady is my wife Katie. 2 years into our marriage, and we have been through a lot together. I have 3 daughters from a previous relationship, and Katie has 3 of her own… 2 sons and a daughter and grandson. Our relationship doesn’t matter any more than anyone else’s. But it does matter to us. Her needs are important to me. As mine are to her. I will love this woman until it all ends… you see, she saved me…." - Michael Jay (credit:Courtesy of Michael Jay)
April and Parker(20 of29)
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"This is my boyfriend Parker and I. We met as campus counselors in Oklahoma. We met from his sister introducing us and we hit it off right before sophomore year of college! We found out we both went to the same college and from there it was chemistry! I love him so much and wouldn't change a thing. We have been together for almost two years. Our interracial relationship matters because we love each other beyond our skin color and our cultures. We have to fight everyday basic prejudice from others, but we know we want to have a life together one day. Our families were initially hesitant but are both behind us. We do plan to marry soon. Our relationship matters for other people like us who want to love in the open without being banned from their families and they just want to love who they want freely. #LovingDay" - April Garrett (credit:Courtesy of April Garrett)
Danni and Matthew(21 of29)
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"My interracial marriage matters because my husband and I prove that love doesn't care about geography: When you're connected, you eventually find one another. He's Australian. I'm from the U.S. We met, and fell in love in Spain. We literally crossed continents to find one another." - Danni Rosema (credit:Courtesy of Danni Rosema)
Chauncey and Jonthan(22 of29)
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"My relationship with my best friend matters because we took advantage of the opportunity to love each other freely, because not everyone can or will have that chance. On a daily basis, we challenge societal norms and the status quo, what we were taught, our experiences… we challenge each other, our prejudices and biases — we constantly push to understand and to empathize with each other’s struggles --- without changing one another… it’s a delicate journey. He calls me out on my B.S., and I - his. Our interracial relationship matters because it in itself, has been an invaluable lesson in emotional honesty and humility. Our love has built bridges in us, our family, and with friends in ways we never imagined!!!

We gained solid partners in one another but we have received so many blessings through the challenges we have faced and overcome. We matter because we have amazing children who are being raised to see others through the eyes of God, and therefore will change the world. We continue to work towards a deeper connection for our family, despite the looks or the questions (yes people “still” stare). We ended up being everything we ever wanted with people we never expected or even believed we desired. Our relationship matters — well, because… sometimes, it’s only love that gets you through… and… we love hard!! Because of the Loving’s and the countless others who chose love beyond boundaries… WE, THE WOMBLES, ARE NOT IN VAIN!" - Chauncey Speller Womble
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Olivia and Matt(23 of29)
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"There are so many reasons why he is my person, but one reason he's special is because he is so incredibly woke. I've never met a white man that tries so hard to be in tune with the black American experience. He's been raising his adopted 17 year old African-American brother for the past 5 years since his mom passed. From watching (and re-watching) "Lemonade" or "Girlhood" to attending panels with Janet Mock and Angelica Ross or discussing the PBS Black Panthers documentary, he's such a gem! I was so nervous to show him my natural hair, but on this day, he said he wanted to get "crown crunk." It's not the most flattering picture of us, but I love it. And him ✨" - Olivia Morris (credit:Courtesy of Olivia Morris)
Chris and Thomas(24 of29)
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"We believe that all interracial relationships are a testament to how far America has come in its fight towards inclusion. Dating outside of ones race is a way to not limit your own level of understanding and, at the heart of it, love. Don't limit your own love! Mixed relationships break down prejudice and underlying segregation. It's also interesting to have another cultural view to account for that is in your partner. It opens the door to further discussions that might have gone unheard. Our society is at a point where sometimes you can't even tell a person's race, and that's a good thing. Race should be something more personal yet shouldn't define you as a person. Also, from an evolutionary point of view, in Europe they had/have a tradition of trying to keep nobility and the family line joined. Mostly, for foolish reasons that had to do with wealth. Anyway, it lead to weak family lines and weak kings. Also, I think that it does have some to do with what you are accustomed to and how you were raised. It's funny because we as a couple have polar opposite upbringings, family dynamics, even socioeconomic challenges yet here we are together! It shows the true power of soul mates and love. We're the "minority's minority" yet we're fighting for the America dream just like everyone else. Sometimes even harder. We've both been in situations in our past where someone wouldn't even consider dating us because of our race! Like, because they know our race all of a sudden they know every facet about our life or role in society. It's bigotry, not a preference. How do you know what you prefer unless you tried it and even then why do you prefer it? That question most always goes unanswered. When we look at each other we don't see race we see our husband, friend, and future together. Thank you to the trailblazers who fought so we could say 'I do.'" - Christopher Roberts (credit:Courtesy of Christopher Roberts)
Bryana and Jeremiah(25 of29)
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"Our interracial relationship matters because it shows how little race actually matters. When everyone else who looks like me wouldn't take me in or give me affection the one who looks the most opposite from me loved and accepted me more than anyone else." - Bryana J. (credit:Courtesy of Bryana J.)
Kristianna and Michael(26 of29)
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"What makes our relationship so special... A theatre artist and a therapist both working to affect change in the world around them. I introduce him to musicals, he introduces me to making sauce from scratch. The surprised look on a person's face when they first meet me, expecting a meek white girl- but being faced with a voluptuous Black woman. What I love is we constantly evolve. We have uncomfortable honest conversations about how our upbringing, our identities, and our ignorance blend together to create different shades of reality within our home. We argue, laugh, and sometimes sit with our anxieties in silence -- whatever helps us to reach our shared vision of the future. What makes our relationship so special? We're awesome!" - Kristianna J. Smith (credit:Courtesy of Kristianna J. Smith)
Adia and Benjamin(27 of29)
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"My relationship matters because it's rooted in our shared faith in God and deep respect for who were are as individuals. Our relationship has helped bridge the gap on a small scale; of cultural divides in our social circles. This is my first inter-racial relationship and his and we've learned there are differences, but not as many as we both originally believed. Loving Ben is like home to me, a home that has no color or limitations." - Adia Hamer (credit:Courtesy of Adia Hamer)
Meredith and Sean(28 of29)
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"My interracial relationship allows me to experience the beauty of this world with the person I love. I have the freedom to explore our differences and grow through them. It has also given me an intro to some of the best music out there." - Meredith Roberts (credit:Courtesy of Meredith Roberts)
Altheria and Francisco(29 of29)
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"Francisco is as proud of his Mexicanness as I am of my Blackness! Instead of pretending to be blind to our differences, we acknowledge our cultural backgrounds as they have helped shaped us into the individuals we each love and admire. Our distinct cultural traditions make our lives rich and vibrant! We watch Mexican soccer and we watch U.S. football. We celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King and we celebrate Cesar Chavez. We eat tortillas and we eat cornbread. We listen to Maná and we listen to Beyoncé. We speak English, and we speak Spanish.

As individuals of color, we have a shared consciousness of how colonialism and racism and nativism and capitalism continually work together to oppress our folk. Our relationship matters for many reasons, but perhaps most importantly because we are a symbol of resistance. We resist those who want to define interracial love as deviant. Our union is not miscegenation. There is nothing “mis” or “bad” about it. Instead, it is a striking amalgamation of all the richness that our cultures means to us. Our relationship matters because we choose to live and love in a society that is intent and strategic in positioning Mexicans and Blacks at odds with each other. We resist this positioning. Through our friends and family, we are purposeful in bringing members of both ethnicities together. We were married on March 28 last year in Guadalajara, Mexico. Since our first date in 2012, we have visited more than ten countries together, our mere presence attesting to our right to choose the partner who makes our hearts sing and to the beauty of Blexican love!" - Altheria Caldera
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