How Worrying Less Will Make You More Successful

How Worrying Less Will Make You More Successful
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Few things in life are more disheartening than failing to reach our goals. But what if the problem lies in the way we set goals in the first place? Founder and medical director of UltraWellness Center Dr. Mark Hyman joined HuffPost Live host Caroline Modarressy-Tehrani today to discuss how he changed the way he approached goal setting to achieve more positive outcomes.

"I think when we're striving, we often end up with not letting magic happen," said Dr. Hyman. "We're trying too hard, we're pushing, we're shoving our life into a certain idea, pattern or goal as opposed to actually letting go and trusting that everything will work out... If you kind of have an attitude that if you do your best, you show up, you do the next moment and the next thing, extraordinary things happen. The less I worry, the better off my life is. When I try to be successful, it's doesn't work. When I just show up and I'm in the moment and I trust that the right thing is going to happen... then I don't have to worry."

Instead of forcing the impossible, Dr. Hyman suggests setting specific, attainable and personally tailored goals that will ultimately leave you feeling empowered rather than let down.

"You have to figure out what's right for you," he said. "There is no one right diet, there is no one right lifestyle, and there is no one right approach. Everybody's different."

To hear more about how to set yourself up for success, watch the full HuffPost Live clip in the video above.

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Successful People on What That Actually Means
Brian Scudamore, 1-800-GOT-JUNK?(01 of09)
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"Having passionate people around me come together to achieve a common goal is when I feel successful. That's why I franchised my business -- with over 200 franchise owners between our three brands, we had the opportunity to accomplish far more together than I could have ever accomplished alone. So the definition of success to me is having the opportunity to work everyday with people who see the vision of what we're creating and can get behind it."- Brian Scudamore, 1-800-GOT-JUNK? 1800gotjunk.comWOW 1 DAY PAINTING wow1day.comYou Move Me youmoveme.com
Chad MacDonald, Connected Services, LLC(02 of09)
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I’m consistently told, that I (have/posses) insane ambition, and a relentless drive for (success/winning). What I know is that none are achieved either in business or personal lives, without an insatiable passion and appetite for learning, thriving and having a team to see that aligned strategic vision through to reality! Success by definition is establishing goals whether it is in business or in life. Achieving success is about having the determination and perseverance to face adversity and continue to work harder than others are willing to, in order to reap rewards that others never will. -- Chad MacDonald, Connected Services, LLC
Richard M. DeVos, Co-Founder of Amway and Senior Chairman of the Orlando Magic(03 of09)
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"Early on, I realized my success would be defined by my role in helping others succeed. When Jay Van Andel and I started Amway more than 50 years ago, we had already tried several businesses together. The difference with Amway is that we wanted to give others the opportunity to be in business for themselves, too. Jay and I realized that our success would depend on how effectively we encouraged others to grow their own Amway businesses.My father was the first to encourage me to believe I could accomplish my goals, and I am convinced that encouragement from an early age puts us on a successful path and keeps us moving forward later in life. By encouraging others to strive for more, much like my father taught me, we have seen the Amway business grow from our homes in Ada, Michigan, into the $11.8 billion global business my son, Doug, and Jay's son, Steve, lead today."-- Richard M. DeVos, Co-Founder of Amway and Senior Chairman of the Orlando Magic. He recently published his fifth book, "Simply Rich: Life and Lessons from the Cofounder of Amway."
Jeff Motske, Trilogy Financial Services(04 of09)
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Jeff Motske, president & CEO of Trilogy Financial Services (200 employees, 11 offices, 4 states, $2 billion+ client invested assets), is worth well over $10 million, but you'd never know if as he lives in the same neighborhood he grew up in, insisting that his kids live a normal life without the unbalanced view of life that many of those living in the affluent sections of Orange County. Life is about family, maintaining a work/life balance and giving back to the community. Giving of yourself, he believes, is more rewarding than surrounding yourself with material possessions.One of the ways he balances his life is by setting a strict schedule to include outside interests like playing baseball. He, his father (who also works at Trilogy) and young son are involved in the game with adult league & little league. When he takes the time for this, he does not take any biz calls. the time is purely devoted to the sport. He also likens the basic fundamentals of baseball to his workplace (e.g., good sportsmanship, team building, playing fairly, etc.).This work/life balance is not restricted to himself and his father, but he INSISTS that all of his employees take family time and get involved in activities outside of work as he finds that they become more loyal, productive and have a better perspective than those who focus on work 24/7.Creating a happy environment at work, spending time with the family and protecting them from a material society make him happy. -- Jeff Motske, Trilogy Financial Services
Lisa Haisha, Soul Blazing(05 of09)
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I have a piece of advice that I often share with friends, family, and clients who feel disconnected from their lives: “The presence you share is more important than the presents you share.”People who give in one form or another will, nine times out of 10, tell me they feel their lives are successes, and feel will become even more successful because giving abundantly results in receiving abundantly. And this giving (the “presence” I mentioned above), is not referring to material things (the “presents”). The financially poorest people I’ve met around the world live the most enriched lives. Unburdened by goals to acquire material items and status, they focus their attention toward those they love—their family and friends. What do they have to give? Themselves. And the community of happiness that results, is the finest indication of a successful life I can imagine and hope to achieve.-- Lisa Haisha, Soul Blazing
Pejman Ghadimi, Secret Entourage(06 of09)
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"Since we are all born into different financial situations, success can rarely be measured by someone’s money or wealth. While money does matter and hold a lot of weight on our ability to be defined as successful by the society we live in, the real measure of success for me is nothing more than our ability to overcome our fears and live our lives in a proactive state, rather than a reactive one."-- Pejman Ghadimi, Secret Entourage
Mark B. Pentecost, It Works! (07 of09)
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"Success is often driven by the fear of failure. It is a constant journey that will only work for you if you work. Business success is changing lives through your products or opportunity and having the ability to pay your bills and your employees, while living a debt-free life. It is having the means to enjoy discretionary time with family and friends and the ability to give back to your community to make the world a better place. Ultimately, success for me and my company was reached when I had the ability to leave a legacy for my children and know they will have the freedom to dream, which the company has enabled others to do as well. "-- Mark B. Pentecost, It Works!
Grant Cardone, Self-Made Multimillionaire(08 of09)
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"Success is freedom. Freedom to make choices, decisions, where you will live, who you will surround yourself with, time with family, exciting business deals, learning constantly, pushing yourself to reach your fullest potential and then looking for other ways to repeat this. This is success. Financially it's having enough to care for your family, to employ others and to make an impact on the world in a big meaningful way."- Grant Cardone, Self-Made Multimillionaire (grantcardone.com)
Sonita Lontoh, Silicon Valley Exec and Entrepreneur(09 of09)
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"True success and happiness to me is the intersection of doing something you love (passion), what you're good at (skill) and what the world needs (purpose). Many people focus on the first, but forget the second and most importantly, the last. People who are working hard in solving the biggest problems are often compensated in the biggest ways, not just in financial terms, but also in human satisfaction terms. Solving problems shift the focus from you to others. It shifts the conversation from what you like to do (having a passion or hobby) to how you can be a valuable contributor in helping society solves its problems (having a purpose). This paradigm shift in thinking is quite empowering as it shifts the frame of reference from the self to how we can help others. People become less self-absorbed and ironically, more likely to be genuinely happy and successful. Don't you sometimes find that you're happiest (and more successful) when you don't think too much about how to become happy and successful?"-- Sonita Lontoh, Silicon Valley Exec and Entrepreneur

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