Harvey Weinstein Can't Blame 'Sex Addiction' For His Alleged Assaults

Compulsive sexual behavior is separate from violating consent.
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Harvey Weinstein is reportedly seeking treatment at a center in Arizona that focuses on sex addiction after more than 20 allegations of sexual misconduct, harassment and assault have surfaced against him. Emails leaked earlier this week also show that the film executive begged CEOs and other moguls to stand by his side before he was fired from his position at The Weinstein Company, promising he’d get mental health help.

“All I’m asking is let me take a leave of absence and get into heavy therapy and counseling. Whether it be in a facility or somewhere else, allow me to resurrect myself with a second chance,” Weinstein reportedly wrote. “A lot of the allegations are false as you know but given therapy and counseling as other people have done, I think I’d be able to get there.”

Weinstein’s resolution to seek treatment as a form of contrition has prompted a pushback, with experts saying the promise may wrongly equate abusive actions with sexual addiction.

Whether Weinstein has a diagnosable disorder remains to be seen. But criticisms that his treatment pledge have sparked have merit: Compulsive sexual conduct is separate from violating consent in sexual relations.

While risky or damaging sexual behaviors are certainly treatable mental health issues, sex addiction alone isn’t a classifiable mental health disorder, according to Kathryn Stamoulis, a licensed mental health counselor who specializes in women’s issues. 

The DSM-V, the gold-standard resource on diagnosable mental disorders, does not include sex addiction in its condition list. Experts say there’s a lack of empirical evidence to support its inclusion, and recent research from UCLA on the human brain corroborates this theory.

Additionally, turning to therapy as a remedy for criminal behavior can send the wrong message about psychological support. An openness to seeking therapy is vital for people who have engaged in sexual harassment in order to transform their conduct, Stamoulis told HuffPost ― but it shouldn’t be used as a sole form of retribution for a person’s actions.

“Therapy is important for a sexual harasser because it is the best chance for them to stop their destructive behavior,” Stamoulis said. “Through therapy, a harasser is confronted, in a way that is non-judgmental, with the truth of the harm of their actions.”

“However, that does not mean that the person should automatically be forgiven for egregious or criminal behavior,” she added.

The difference between offending behavior and ‘sex addiction’

Regardless of whether sex addiction is formally recognized by the medical community, experts say there’s still a clear distinction between those behaviors and sexual conduct that involve abusive acts.

Chris Samuels, director of the Sexual Addiction Treatment and Training Institute in New York, stressed that sexual misconduct and what may be considered sex addiction can occur simultaneously, but they are two separate issues.

“The perpetrator (of sexual misconduct) is opportunistic, often motivated by power dynamics and often self-justifying and remorseless,” she said. “The sex addict, by contrast, is fairly constantly dealing with compulsive urges to act-out as a coping modality, is seeking emotional relief from stress rather than seeking to exercise power over another, and is rarely without shame or guilt about his or her behavior.”

“Because sex 'works,' the individual may increasingly turn to it as a panacea.”

- Chris Samuels, of the Sexual Addiction Treatment and Training Institute in New York

Someone who is displaying sex addiction-like behavior may see it as a way to find mental and physical relief, Samuels said.

“Because sex ‘works,’ the individual may increasingly turn to it as a panacea,” she said. “Over time, of course, the problem-solver becomes the problem.”

How sexual behavior can be considered a mental health issue

Stamoulis said it’s possible a person can feel psychologically compelled to engage in overt sexual acts. This hypersexuality can be a symptom of mental illness ― but it often isn’t the whole picture.

“Sexual assault is not the same as sex. The consent piece is crucial,” she stressed. “If someone has repeatedly harassed, chased [or] masturbated in front of someone who is clearly uncomfortable or saying no, there may be another diagnosis more appropriate, such as a paraphilic disorder like sexual sadism disorder”― a condition considered a diagnosable mental health disorder under the DSM-V.

“Sexual assault is not the same as sex. The consent piece is crucial.”

- Kathryn Stamoulis

Some experts are working to get sex addiction more recognized in research and in treatment protocols.

“The community is trying to change that,” said Rich Kieling, a licensed clinical social worker and director at the Center for Personal Growth and Creativity in New York. “There are many clinicians in the field now who actually do treat it as an addiction and it is gaining more legitimacy as an actual addiction despite the DSM.” 

Kieling said that underlying psychological issues like childhood trauma are often at the heart of sex addictions, and it’s vital for professionals to help patients work through those as well as the need for sex itself.

Treatment for these types of issues vary. For example, the Center for Personal Growth and Creativity includes options like talk therapy, 12-step programs set up similar to Alcoholics Anonymous, psychodrama (where patients act out scenarios and confront them using cognitive techniques they’ve learned) and group therapy.

Ultimately, Stamoulis said it’s important for anyone dealing with a mental health issue ― sex-related or otherwise ― to seek professional guidance. Therapy doesn’t make amends or excuse behavior. But, if executed properly and followed through by the patient, it is a clinically backed way to take action toward personal growth and ensure no more harm occurs ― to the patient or others.

“I believe everyone can benefit from mental health counseling,” she said. “At the very least, it is a chance to focus just on oneself and relieve stress. At its best, it can help relieve suffering, provide insight and help people reach their goals.”

Before You Go

Celebrities React To Harvey Weinstein
Ashley Judd(01 of21)
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Ashley Judd told the New York Times that Harvey Weinstein invited her to his hotel room and asked her if he could give her a massage or if she wanted to watch him shower.

She told the Times that she thought, “How do I get out of the room as fast as possible without alienating Harvey Weinstein?”
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Gwyneth Paltrow(02 of21)
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Gwyneth Paltrow told the New York Times that Weinstein touched her inappropriately.

“I was a kid, I was signed up, I was petrified,” she said, noting that when Weinstein found out she told her then-boyfriend Brad Pitt, "I thought he was going to fire me."
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Angelina Jolie(03 of21)
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“I had a bad experience with Harvey Weinstein in my youth, and as a result, chose never to work with him again and warn others when they did,” Angelina Jolie told the New York Times. “This behavior towards women in any field, any country is unacceptable.” (credit:PA Archive/PA Images)
Kate Winslet(04 of21)
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Kate Winslet told Variety that she had heard rumors of Weinstein's behavior for years.

"I had hoped that these kind of stories were just made up rumours, maybe we have all been naïve," she said. "And it makes me so angry. There must be ‘no tolerance’ of this degrading, vile treatment of women in ANY workplace anywhere in the world.”
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Meryl Streep(05 of21)
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Meryl Streep told HuffPost that the women who came forward about Weinstein's behavior are "heroes."

“The disgraceful news about Harvey Weinstein has appalled those of us whose work he championed, and those whose good and worthy causes he supported," she said in a statement.
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Rose McGowan(06 of21)
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Rose McGowan has been vocal about the scandal since the New York Times published its bombshell report on Weinstein's alleged misconduct. McGowan, the Times said, was one of several women with whom Weinstein reached a financial settlement following the alleged abuse.

After The Weinstein Company fired Harvey, the actress and director called on the rest of the studio's board to resign.

"They knew," she said in a tweet. "They funded. They advised. They covered up. They must be exposed. They must resign."
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Ben Affleck(07 of21)
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"I am saddened and angry that a man who I worked with used his position of power to intimidate, sexually harass and manipulate many women over decades," Ben Affleck posted on Twitter. "The additional allegations of assault that I read this morning made me sick."

Actress Rose McGowan denounced Affleck for implying that he didn't know of the abuse before this week, saying that the pair had previously discussed Weinstein's treatment of her.

"You lie," she tweeted.
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Lena Dunham(08 of21)
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'Girls' co-creator and star Lena Dunham penned an op-ed for the New York Times calling on more men to speak out against Weinstein and others like him.

"Abuse, threats and coercion have been the norm for so many women trying to do business or make art," she wrote. "Mr. Weinstein may be the most powerful man in Hollywood to be revealed as a predator, but he’s certainly not the only one who has been allowed to run wild. His behavior, silently co-signed for decades by employees and collaborators, is a microcosm of what has been happening in Hollywood since always and of what workplace harassment looks like for women everywhere."
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George Clooney(09 of21)
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In an interview with The Daily Beast, George Clooney said that, for decades, he'd heard rumors about Weinstein, but dismissed them as gossip. Calling Weinstein's behavior "disturbing" and "indefensible," Clooney said he had no idea of the severity of the accusations.

"A good bunch of people that I know would say, “Yeah, Harvey’s a dog” or “Harvey’s chasing girls,” but again, this is a very different kind of thing," the actor told the Daily Beast. "This is harassment on a very high level. And there’s an argument that everyone is complicit in it. I suppose the argument would be that it’s not just about Hollywood, but about all of us—that every time you see someone using their power and influence to take advantage of someone without power and influence and you don’t speak up, you’re complicit. And there’s no question about that."
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Jennifer Lawrence(10 of21)
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Jennifer Lawrence won an Academy Award for "Silver Linings Playbook," which The Weinstein Company distributed. She called the alleged harassment "inexcusable and absolutely upsetting."

"I worked with Harvey five years ago, and I did not experience any form of harassment personally, nor did I know about any of these allegations. This kind of abuse is inexcusable and absolutely upsetting," Lawrence said in a statement. "My heart goes out to all of the women affected by these gross actions. And I want to thank them for their bravery to come forward."
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Hillary Clinton(11 of21)
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Weinstein was a major Democratic Party benefactor, having donated to or raised money for a host of candidates, including Hillary Clinton.

Clinton said that she "was shocked and appalled by the revelations about Harvey Weinstein. The behavior described by women coming forward cannot be tolerated. Their courage and the support of others is critical in helping to stop this kind of behavior."
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Barack and Michelle Obama(12 of21)
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Weinstein visited the White House multiple times while Obama was in office after having raised huge funds for his presidential campaign. Earlier this year, Malia Obama also reportedly worked for the Weinstein Company.

"Michelle and I have been disgusted by the recent reports about Harvey Weinstein," the Obamas said in a statement. "Any man who demeans and degrades women in such fashion needs to be condemned and held accountable, regardless of wealth or status. We should celebrate the courage of women who have come forward to tell these painful stories. And we all need to build a culture -- including by empowering our girls and teaching our boys decency and respect -- so we can make such behavior less prevalent in the future."
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Judi Dench(13 of21)
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Judi Dench, who won an Oscar for her performance in the Weinstein-backed "Shakespeare in Love" and was nominated for two other films under his wing, denounced the alleged abuse.

"Whilst there is no doubt that Harvey Weinstein has helped and championed my film career for the past 20 years, I was completely unaware of these offenses which are, of course, horrifying and I offer my sympathy to those who have suffered, and whole-hearted support to those who have spoken out," she said in a statement.
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Leonardo DiCaprio(14 of21)
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Leonardo DiCaprio worked with Weinstein on blockbuster films like “Gangs of New York,” “The Aviator,” and “Django Unchained.”

"There is no excuse for sexual harrassment or sexual assault-- no matter who you are and no matter what profession," DiCarpio said in a Facebook Post. "I applaud the strength and courage of the women who came forward and made their voices heard."
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Jessica Chastain(15 of21)
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Jessica Chastain has been one of the most outspoken critics of Weinstein and of Hollywood's complicity since The New York Times published its damning report.

"I was warned from the beginning" about Weinstein, she said in a tweet. "The stories were everywhere. To deny that is to create an environment for it to happen again."
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Julianne Moore(16 of21)
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Moore, who starred in the Weinstein-backed film "A Single Man," tweeted that "coming forward about sexual abuse and coercion is scary and women have nothing to be gained personally by doing so. But through their bravery we move forward as a culture, and I thank them. Stand with @AshleyJudd@rosemcgowan and others." (credit:Theo Wargo via Getty Images)
Colin Firth(17 of21)
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Calling Weinstein a "frightening man to stand up to," Colin Firth told The Guardian that reading about the allegations gave him "a feeling of nausea."

“It must have been terrifying for these women to step up and call him out. And horrifying to be subjected to that kind of harassment. I applaud their courage."
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Tamron Hall(18 of21)
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“It’s a woman’s worst nightmare to be in a situation where you believe someone more powerful has control over your life,” former "Today" show host Tamron Hall told HuffPost. She called the allegations against Weinstein "horrifying." (credit:Chance Yeh via Getty Images)
Blake Lively(19 of21)
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Blake Lively spoke out against Weinstein in an interview with The Hollywood Reporter.

The actress said that she was unaware of the abuse but admitted that "it's devastating to hear."

"It's important that women are furious right now. It's important that there is an uprising. It's important that we don't stand for this and that we don't focus on one or two or three or four stories. It's important that we focus on humanity in general and say, 'This is unacceptable.'"
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Julia Roberts(20 of21)
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Julia Roberts gave a statement to People, saying, “A corrupt, powerful man wields his influence to abuse and manipulate women. We’ve heard this infuriating, heartbreaking story countless times before. And now here we go again. I stand firm in the hope that we will finally come together as a society to stand up against this kind of predatory behavior, to help victims find their voices and their healing, and to stop it once and for all." (credit:Tristan Fewings via Getty Images)
Ryan Gosling(21 of21)
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“I want to add my voice of support for the women who have had the courage to speak out against Harvey Weinstein,” Gosling wrote in a note on Twitter. “Like most people in Hollywood, I have worked with him and I’m deeply disappointed in myself for being so oblivious to these devastating experiences of sexual harassment and abuse. He is emblematic of a systemic problem. Men should stand with women and work together until there is real accountability and change.” (credit:David M. Benett via Getty Images)

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