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Woman Admits She's Staying In 'Cesspool' Marriage Because Of Her Age and Fear

Woman Admits She's Staying In 'Cesspool' Marriage Because Of Her Age and Fear
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Six years into their marriage, Michael presented his wife Karie with a postnuptial agreement that Karie signed. Now, she says, "I live in constant fear of Michael leaving me. And I am not getting any younger. I'm not pretty. I just want this postnup to be thrown away." Watch their story here.

Karie admits that she overlooked some possible red flags before marrying Michael, but says she still wants their marriage to work. "I still love him. At the end of the day, I want to still be married to him," she tells Dr. Phil in the video above.

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"And that's not just because you think there's no alternative?" Dr. Phil asks.

After hesitating to respond, Karie explains, "I'm going to sound pathetic if I tell you that it's really because I'm old, at this point. The truth is the prospect of getting married at my age again, and the thought of having to do this all over again with someone else scares the heck out of me, and I don't want to do it again. So I'd rather just stay in the cesspool I'm in."

What does Dr. Phil think about the future of Karie and Michael's marriage? Is their postnup likely to be enforceable? Watch more on Friday's episode of Dr. Phil, "My Husband Convinced Me To Sign A Post-Nup, But I Want It Thrown Out!"

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