Charlize Theron Speaks Honestly About Growing Up With An Alcoholic Father

The actress also praised her mother, calling her "a huge inspiration in my life."
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Charlize Theron attends the 'Atomic Blonde' World Premiere at Stage Theater on July 17, 2017 in Berlin, Germany.
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In an interview with Howard Stern on Wednesday, Charlize Theron opened up about her experience growing up with an alcoholic father, People reports.

The “Atomic Blonde” actress spoke specifically about the night her mother killed her father in self-defense, a traumatic experience she previously detailed while promoting her film “Dark Places” in 2015. 

I just pretended it didn’t happen,” the actress told Stern. “I didn’t tell anybody — I didn’t want to tell anybody. Whenever anybody asked me, I said my dad died in a car accident. Who wants to tell that story? Nobody wants to tell that story.”

Theron noted that people often “don’t know how to respond” to situations like the one she was faced with. She said that she struggled with the idea of being seen as a victim until she started going to therapy in her late 20s and early 30s.

What affected her most, though, was living with a dad whose behavior was so unpredictable. She would wake up “not knowing what was going to happen and not knowing how my day was going to go and all of it dependent on somebody else and whether he was not going to drink or drink.”  

Theron admitted she felt terrible about the entire situation, but said she doesn’t “dwell on anything.” 

The star credited her mother for getting her through the tough period. 

“She’s a huge inspiration in my life,” the actress added. “Her philosophy was ‘This is horrible. Acknowledge that this is horrible. Now make a choice. Will this define you? Are you going to sink or are you going to swim?’ That was it.”

Theron also spoke about her father’s death in a 2004 interview with ABC

“I think, for me, it took a long time to sink in, what had really happened, because you just don’t think stuff like that will ever happen to you,” she said. “You always think it happens to somebody else.”

She added, “It’s a part of me, but it doesn’t rule my life.” 

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Charlize Theron's Most Badass Feminist Moments
When She Pushed Back Against The Gender Pay Gap(01 of06)
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When the Sony hack revealed how unequal pay is for men and women in Hollywood, Theron reportedly insisted that she be paid the same salary as her male co-star Chris Hemsworth for their upcoming film, "The Huntsman."

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When She Reminded Girls That Being A Feminist Is Awesome(02 of06)
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In a June 2015 interview with ELLE UK, Theron explained why feminism is crucial to closing the gender pay gap -- and why we need to teach young girls what feminism really means. "This is a good time for us to bring this to a place of fairness, and girls need to know that being a feminist is a good thing," Theron said. "It doesn’t mean that you hate men. It means equal rights. If you’re doing the same job, you should be compensated and treated in the same way." (credit:Barcroft Media via Getty Images)
When She Explained That 'Women Are Just As Complex And Interesting As Men'(03 of06)
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During an interview at this year's Cannes Film Festival, Theron perfectly responded to a question about the feminism of "Mad Max:"

"You know what I think is even more powerful about it? [It's] that I think [director George Miller] didn't have a feminist agenda up his sleeve, and I think that's what makes the story even more powerful, especially how the women are represented in it. It's just very truthful, and I really applaud him for that. I think when we use the word 'feminism' people get a little freaked out, it's like we're somehow, like, being put on a pedestal or anything like that. George has this innate understanding that women are just as complex and interesting as men, and he was really interested in discovering all of that. I think through just his need and want for the truth he actually made an incredible feminist movie."

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When She Criticized Hollywood's Views On Aging(04 of06)
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In an April 2015 interview for W magazine, Theron explained how she cares less about what people think of her now that she is older.

“I think, like many women, I was judgmental toward women as they aged," she said. "Women, in our society, are compartmentalized so that we start to feel like we’re cut flowers and after a while we will wilt. I realize now that’s not the case -- we can celebrate every age. That’s my encouragement to 20 year olds who are terrified of getting older: Don’t have a nervous breakdown and don’t hit the Chardonnay too hard. Getting older is not that bad."

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When She Explained Why It Was Important For Her To Look Physically Strong In "Mad Max"(05 of06)
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In a May 2015 interview with The Telegraph, Theron talked about how hard she trained for "Mad Max," and why it was crucial for her to look physically strong in the film.

"I'm not a fan of scrawny little girls pretending to kick butt in movies, I just don’t buy it," she said. "And I hate those moments in movies where the tiniest little arms are hitting a guy who is four times her size and we are supposed to believe it."

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When She Spoke About The Limited Roles For Women In Movies(06 of06)
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In a May 2015 interview with The Guardian, Theron spoke about how women in films are often pigeonholed into two simple types of roles: “You’re either a really good mother or you’re a really good hooker," she said. "The problem with how movies represent women goes right back to the Madonna/whore complex. You can’t be a really good hooker-mother. It’s impossible.” She added: "Women thrive in being many things. We can be just as dark and light as men. We’re more than just nurturers, more than just breeders, we’re just as conflicted." (credit:Samir Hussein via Getty Images)